Rabbi Michael Leo Samuel

Q. After almost 10 years of marriage to my non observant Jewish husband (and having been raising our 2 sons Jewish since their Bris), I converted to Judaism in the Reform movement. I have also been studying with an Orthodox Rabbi. However, he has made it very clear that he will not convert me unless I am living an Orthodox life.

I keep kosher, and observe Shabbat in that I do not work or cook on the Sabbath, However, I drive to synagogue and in view of the fact that my husband is not religious whatsoever, I am unable to take it farther than that (although I would like to). As far as the laws of family purity, I dress modestly, however I do not cover my hair, and as I am menopausal, there is no need for me to visit the mikvah.

My sons (9 and 6) identify very strongly with Judaism, having attended religious preschool and now religious school. The 9 year old attends Shabbat services with me every Shabbos. We observe all holidays.

Now my question: I was reading your Q & A and came upon the one regarding how a Jewish Court should deal with intermarried couples. If I understand your response correctly, my Orthodox Rabbi should be willing to convert me. I am most sincere in my desire to convert, and while I am unable to be completely observant at this time, I know I will be able to grow in my observance over time, because while my husband is not interested in this and I know I must progress slowly, I also see that he is supportive of my desire in this area, and I’m sure he will “come around” in time. He has, after all, gone from very little religion in the house, to accepting and supporting my decision to keep a kosher house, attend services every Friday and Saturday, rest on Shabbat, etc. This is a major change in our lifestyle. And it is not a passing fancy, we have been observing these mitzvot for over a year now. Continue Reading